InnerLab Korridor

We all make plans, we plan our careers, relationships, businesses, education, finances and future. We imagine how things should unfold, often creating a mental picture of where we will be at a particular age or stage of life. We tell ourselves, "By this time, I should have achieved this", "This relationship should have worked", "This opportunity should have come", "I did everything right, so why did this happen?" Then, suddenly, reality changes the script, an opportunity disappears, a relationship ends, a business fails, plan is delayed, someone disappoints, an unexpected financial burden appears and suddenly, a carefully prepared future suddenly becomes uncertain. And perhaps the most painful part is that sometimes we did nothing wrong. We planned carefully, we worked hard, we prayed, we prepared and we tried our best. Yet things still didn't happen the way we expected. This is one of life's most difficult lessons. You can control your e...

We live in a time when speed is often celebrated more than substance, appearance more than character and results more than the process that produced them. Everyone wants to succeed. But increasingly, fewer people want to endure the process required to become successful. We want the certificate without the learning, the position without the competence, the money without the patience, the influence without the character, the body of a disciplined person without the habits that created it and the respect of a leader without the responsibility of leadership. And perhaps most dangerously, we are beginning to confuse looking successful with actually becoming successful. This is where an identity crisis begins. An identity crisis is not always about not knowing who you are. Sometimes, it is about knowing what you should become but repeatedly choosing what is easier, faster and more socially rewarded. You know discipline matters, but your environment keeps telling you that shortcuts are smarte...

One of the greatest obstacles to personal growth is not poverty, lack of opportunity or even failure. It is entitlement. Entitlement is the belief that life owes us something simply because we exist. It convinces us that success should come without sacrifice, respect should come without character, leadership should come without responsibility and rewards should arrive without effort. It is a quiet mindset, but it destroys dreams louder than almost anything else. Many people spend more time complaining about what they deserve than working for what they desire. They believe the world has treated them unfairly, yet they rarely ask themselves the uncomfortable question, "Have I become the kind of person who can handle the opportunities I'm asking for?" The truth is that life is not always fair. Some people begin with advantages while others begin with struggles. But although circumstances may influence where you start, they do not have to determine where you finish. Progress ...